Love As We Knew It

As the world continues to turn, it's become clear that not too much is changing. This means that we've got to adapt and alter our perspective. Love as we knew it - it was grandiose, over the top, that once in a lifetime extravaganza. Now, we're being forced to hone in on what really matters - a short guest list, no dance floor, a socially distanced bride and groom? It's truly time to get creative and think outside of the box. Let's put on our thinking caps!

love as we know it_pitstop weddings1 (1).jpgIf you’ve heard from your friends and family, you’ve surely known a couple or two who have been forced to compromise on what their big day looked like when they were planning it before 2020 struck. "According to a May survey by the Knot, 66 percent of 6,253 respondents across eight countries are rescheduling to a later date. Of these, 40 percent are postponing to later in 2020, 52 percent to 2021 and 8 percent aren’t sure of their new date." 

While we were hoping that things would quickly get back to normal, it looks as though it’s time to embrace our new world. The positives of this flipside is that we are now able to open our arms to the pure core meaning of what a wedding is. Despite the fact that a couple should want to joyously share and celebrate their love with their loved ones, it can be done in a manner that feels less corporate than many weddings have become. In this new manner, guests aren’t taxed by the guilt of needing to purchase fancy attire, experience wedding gifts and if it was a destination wedding - perhaps even a pricey plane ticket and hotel stay. This is not to demean those weddings, as they can create memories that last a lifetime, but to shine a light on the positives of getting down to the brass tax. 

You can now bring the party straight to your living room. We absolutely love the idea of sending a piece or two of your wedding cake to your guests house and letting them share in on the fun virtually. “Amy Shey Jacobs, the founder and creative director of Chandelier Events in New York, recently started a new division of her company called Don’t Let the Day Go By, which merges virtual events with real life experiences. “You can now drop ship beautiful flowers from the nation’s best florists right to your living room, have virtual photo booths, send wedding cake to all of your guests, and dance your first dance with live musicians,” she said. “It is certainly not one that will replace the dream weddings we are planning for our couples. But for the couple who wants to say I do now and celebrate later — this can be a truly special way to do it.”

Although everything is not virtual, for those weddings that are still happening in person, there are many changes that are being set in place that will allow for a more sanitary event. “Ms. Edmonds is bidding farewell to the buffet dinner and focusing on plated meals. She also expects to eliminate hors d’oeuvres, or, at least change the kinds she serves. ‘Maybe individual plates with a few hors d’oeuvres, maybe a couple of bite-size hors d’oeuvres mixed with prosciutto, tomatoes and basil and a cocktail fork so you’re not dipping’, she said. She’s also adding hand-sanitizing stations with a timed 20-second jingle.”

If you think about it, this almost takes all the distractions out of the process. If your guests are now viewing and partaking from a computer, their sole focus is on the bride and groom, rather than the other situational elements that often arise during gatherings. We love the idea of guests partaking in wedding vows and well wishes. This is the time to soak up the individual love everyone has for one another, where time is not of the essence and every individual guest is able to express the joy they have for this union.