We know that there is almost nothing good about having to postpone your wedding, as it’s something that you’ve dreamt up ever since you were little and to have your multi-decade dreams come to a hissing halt last year, is nothing short of terribly troublesome.
Yet, now is the time where it’s important that we focus on the beauty that is still all around us. How can we celebrate what has yet to come while facing and navigating through hardships?
If we look closely enough, this past year has a wonderful practice in patience. NBC correspondences with Sarah A. Schnitker, Ph.D., Associate Professor of Psychology and Neuroscience at Baylor University who states “There are a lot of predictors not related to personality traits that determine patience, too.” The habits we develop, ability to regulate emotions, and our expectations in a given situation all affect our capacity to respond with patience, as do situational variables like whether we’re overtired, ill, hungry, stressed, or, even, overheated.”
“In some of Schnitker’s research published in "The Journal of Positive Psychology" in 2012, she and her colleagues characterized three types of scenarios that would require someone to respond either patiently or impatiently: life hardships (facing, for example, a chronic illness or disability you’ll have to deal with over the long-term); interpersonal interactions (settling a conflict or struggle with a spouse, friend, child or parent); and daily hassles (traffic jams, flight delays, spills, tangled necklaces, and getting transferred a half dozen times before being able to talk to the person that can help you figure out why your Internet isn’t working)” explores NBC.
Negative and difficult events are going to continue throughout life, hopefully far and few between when compared to the good. Once we learn to be patient and accept what is, it’s now time to make use of all of our extra time. How can you keep the excitement and love alive while you’re waiting for your big day? There are fun ways to keep the party going - maybe it’s even better than having your wedding on one day, because you’ll be able to enjoy it for even longer, despite the lingering. This gives you more time to focus on what you really want for your wedding.
When it comes to keeping the momentum ready and alive, we love the idea of hosting a few little pre-parties. With everyone starving for social interaction these days, consider hosting a little get together virtually every other month, until your real wedding plans are finally able to get back into action. Every other month is enough time for those around you to clear their schedules and it’s a great way to cross-pollinate from different circles of friends. You can choose to make these little gatherings about love itself, rather than your marriage specifically. You can feature a new couple each time where they’re able to talk about what married life means to them. This will create lasting memories for years to come!
We must remember that getting married is only the beginning. This is a great practice round to handle the curveballs that life simply won’t stop throwing! Let us not forget how to continue to turn lemons into lemonade. It will truly make all of the difference.